How bad can a marriage get before it's too bad?

I know no marriage is perfect and I just wonder if my marriage has normal problems or worse all my friends married and single say they would not put up with my husband. He talks ugly to me, we bicker at each other a lot, I run a successful business and have doubled my income in two years but I still don't make as much as him so it's not good enough, he goes and does as he wishes without asking, just expecting me to watch our son but I have to beg him to watch our son so I can get my hair done once every 3 months, I make him dinner every night and clean up after him ( he's super messy), I take car of all finances, even mow the yard on occasion when he refuses, I take out trash and keep the household running After working 12 hours a day, he works outside maybe 6 - 10 hours a day and he makes more money and he thinks that entitles him to be the more important one in the relationship. If he wants a snack or drink Im expected to stop what I'm doing and get it for him, but he never gets anything for me! I'm not allowed to inconvenience him but I'm supposed to wait on him hand and foot! Should the fact that he makes more money entitle him to this?